You know, in Pakistan, child marriage isn't some far-off problem we read about in the news. It's right here, happening in our neighborhoods, villages, and even in our own families. I've seen it myself. young girls, just starting their teens, being pushed into marriage before they've had a real taste of childhood. It's heartbreaking, and if we're honest, many of us have witnessed it too.
People often say it's for the best. "It's responsible," they claim, or "Better to marry her early to keep her safe." But let's think about it: Is it really a marriage when the girl is still a child, wide-eyed and full of wonder? Her life is just beginning, yet suddenly, she's thrown into a world of adult duties she isn't ready for. This isn't about tradition or protection; it's about stealing away her future.
Let me share what this really means for these girls. First, their education stops dead in its tracks. School books get replaced by household chores, and dreams of becoming a doctor or teacher fade away. Without learning, they're left without skills or knowledge to stand on their own.
Then comes motherhood, way too soon. Their bodies aren't fully grown, so pregnancy turns into a scary risk. I've heard stories of young moms facing serious health problems during childbirth, things like heavy bleeding or infections that could have been avoided if they waited a few years. And mentally? They're not prepared for the stress of raising a baby when they themselves need care and guidance.
The weight of all this can crush their spirits. Adult responsibilities pile up: cooking, cleaning, pleasing in-laws, and dealing with a husband who might be much older. It's no surprise that many end up feeling deeply sad or anxious. Depression sneaks in, and anxiety keeps them up at night. Worse still, some face abuse, physical or emotional with no one to turn to. They're isolated, cut off from friends and family, their voices muffled by fear or shame.
The saddest part? They lose who they are. Those big dreams traveling, studying, or just playing freely get buried under expectations. Their identity shrinks to "wife" or "mother," and the chance to choose their own path slips away forever.
This isn't just a "social issue" we can chat about over tea and forget. To me, and I bet to many of you, it's a clear violation of basic human rights. Every girl deserves to grow up, learn, and decide her own life. Marriage should come when she's ready, strong, informed, and willing not because society or family pressures say so.
We can't ignore this anymore. It's time for change: better laws, education for parents, and support for girls to speak up. Let's protect our daughters so they can chase their dreams, not lose them. After all, a happy, empowered girl builds a stronger Pakistan for everyone.
Shah jahan Baloch